Tuesday, February 10, 2009

if you wanna get gone...then get gone.

I got a text from a random number earlier this evening...

random - hey, i heard some of the Grey's characters were leaving, that sucks
me - who's this?
random - **** from work. dang, did you erase my number or somethin?
me - oh. yeah, i did. along with every other number that i don't use anymore.
her - oh.
me - but yeah, that does suck. i don't blame them for leavin though.


It never ceases to amaze me when people want to treat me funny or be through with me, then when it's good for them, they wanna come back around and be kool. The thing that kills me is that 95% of the time, I didn't do anything...and they're typically pretty quick to say so..."you didn't deserve it, it was me." Yeah, I already knew that, thanks. It's unfortunate, but once this happens, the relationship is typically never the same again. Especially in the cases in which I wasn't being treated like I deserved or the person just up and decided they didn't wanna fuck with me anymore, just disappeared without notice. Call me unforgiving, but there isn't much coming back after that. The person in the conversation used to work in my department. We were kool to an extent, but when she left my department for a better paying position in another department, we weren't that kool anymore, but I did begin going to her house to watch Grey's Anatomy on Thursday evenings. But one week, she waited until right before the show was about to start and cancelled. Then she did it again the next week. At that point, I didn't even make plans to watch it with her. She quit talking to me at work. She would turn her head when I smiled or said hi to her. She just turned into somethin else. I pulled her aside one day and asked what was going on. She said she was going through some things. Well, unless your cable got disconnected (which I realize it may have), we can still hang out to watch our show. She just wasn't feelin it...and she seemed generally just disinterested in being friends period. So I went on about my business. Lo and behold, about 2 months later, I'm getting texts asking me to come watch Grey's with her and she hopes I haven't replaced her with another buddy to watch the show with (what she wasn't aware of is that she was actually somebody else's replacement as my Grey's buddy...another person that came before her that just opted to quit me). I just kind of ignored the questions and declined her invitation. She gets a head-nod out of me at work these days. I just fail to see how people think it's okay to utilize the option to drop in and out of other people's lives with no explanation or warning. Of course, it's always an option. But why take it unnecessarily? People are so devastated when their lover or significant other just up and leaves....luckily, I've never had that happen, but I'm just as shocked and upset when friends do it. And just like the heartbroken person who got left, I'm skeptical when they come crawlin back.

1 comment:

RealDeal_Revolutionista said...

Me too. It invalidates your feelings and everything else. I just don't get how people wonder why none of their relationships are successful when it seems to me that people are generally not interested in relationships, let alone interested in relating to another person besides themselves. I'd rather be lonely than hang around with people who just aren't interested in me. I don't blame you one bit.